How to Deal with Family Members over the Holidays

Getting together with family over the holidays is supposed to be a joyous occasion. In reality often times its not that simple….. especially if you don’t always get along with certain family members. Please know it is possible to enjoy the day by prioritizing your mental health and being proactive.
First, be aware that if you are the one responsible for the dinner seating arrangements make sure not to sit certain people who do not always get along next to each other. Think of someone on your invite list that has a sense of humor that can act as a buffer and seat them between those with strong (possibly toxic personalities).
Second, watch the amount of alcohol being served! If everyone starts drinking at noon and you don’t eat dinner until 6:00 that’s a recipe for disaster. Inhibitions decrease dramatically as we drink and the chances of something being said that can’t be taken back increase ten-fold.
Thirdly, It’s wise to tear away from social media before, during and directly after Thanksgiving Break. I’m certain you will benefit from the mental break and it will prove to be beneficial when your faced with a barrage of social media posts from people who are all smiles, hash tagging #greattobehome. It may be all you can do to survive the day.
Lastly, remember that the time spent with everyone is a finite amount of time (2,4,6 hours) when I think of situations I am apprehensive about entering I remind myself that the situation is temporary.

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